If you are always making a sacrifice against your own personal needs while you are in a relationship and giving more to the other person, then there is going to be a conflict. Yes, you can be too nice to someone who is not nice to you. While going along with a partner is a way to make peace and to provide love and support, it doesn't mean that you have to give up all that you want to please that person when it is not being reciprocated.

In some cases, you may be too because of being afraid to get your partner upset or cause problems in the union. If you continue to do this, you will start to feel resentful and feel as if you lost your own identity.

Being especially nice while you are in a relationship can cause issues, if you are not careful and this is especially true if your social skills are limited. You might also be trying to keep up with doing something that is not sustainable and so, this would not allow you to be your authentic self. This can create disappointment and other problems in the relationship. The key is not to give someone else the power over you and neither should you be nice to someone who does not deserve it. You can be nice, but assertive while looking out for yourself as well. In other words, there has to be balance in the relationship.

Everyone wants to find love and remain in love with someone that they think is compatible to them, but that does not mean you have to do it at your own expensive; giving up your personal needs over someone else's. In a relationship, each person will have their own ideas of how to develop and maintain a good relationship. One of the ways that you can damage a relationship is always being the nice one and putting up with some 'shitty' treatment from the other person. In fact, when you are too nice, your partner might take advantage of this and treat you like shit when you don't deserve it. So, you should be very careful and not go overboard with your niceness. All human beings are privy to seeking comfort and so, it is not surprising that the expectation might be higher for one person over the other in a relationship. In that scenario, there is going to be an imbalance. If you are overdoing it in your relationship and the other person is not carrying their share of emotional burden, there will always be an imbalance. Being nice is a choice, but not everyone understands the positive impact of it and if someone else chooses not to be nice in return, it will put pressure and tension on the relationship. Once you feel like the other person is not carrying their weight, it will cause resentment and this can get out of hand in no time. And what will happen as a result? Nothing good!

A lot of people are convinced that if they are always nice, it is a way to win over a partner or friend so as to get them to like them. Pleasing someone is not necessarily the way to their heart. There are some people who will take advantage of your kindness or your niceness.

There is no guaranteed that if you are nice someone is going to remain with you forever or be at your beck and call. In fact, it can be a turn off in some cases. Things do not necessarily work like that. There is no way that you can maintain being nice all of the time and so, if you decide not to be nice one day, the other person's expectation will be waned and you might find yourself having created a problem in your relationship. Your inconsistency of being too nice will possibly make the person feel like you are not being your authentic self. You are not guaranteeing that you are just naturally a nice person and so it could be a letdown to the other person. It is not feasible that everyone can be nice all the time and so when you let go of your nice personality, the situation can turn dark in your relationship. Just be yourself all the time!

Being nice takes a lot of effort and persuasion with not much reward in many cases. You don't have to force niceness; just to keep a relationship. If you are overly nice in your relationship, it might appear as if you are needy and weak and the other partner could use this as a foothold against you in an argument or at any time. This is a trait that attracts a lot of abusers. You need to be genuine to maintain a strong relationship. If not, the other partner might see a way to exploit your efforts of being nice and trying to please. It is not your job to please someone who does not make the effort to do the same for you.

Your tendency to appear nice and not being able to maintain this status can turn out to be a problem for you. If you are too kind and just too understanding, even when someone is not behaving nicely, you can pose problems for yourself. You might attract people who see a weakness that they can sabotage and take advantage of. You might find yourself being disrespected. And that is not OK. You don't deserve this. This means that you are in a relationship with someone who does not value you and things that your niceness is something to be leveraged. So, you are only hurting yourself in such a case and eventually, you will feel frustrated and disappointed instead of being happy and satisfied that you are pleasing your partner. Being too nice could bring people into your life that's looking for someone to use and abuse. Be very careful about the kind of person you are nice to. It is time to have an epiphany about being nice and out of balance when you are the only one on the other end of the spectrum demonstrating the niceness.

When being too nice in a relationship and not having someone being nice to you in return means that you are putting your needs on the backburner. You have to care for yourself first and foremost before you can care and be nice or kind to someone else. It builds your self esteem and self confidence so that you put up a blockade against being taken advantage of. You have to meet your emotional needs before you can do this for someone else or you will find yourself being burned out in trying to please someone else. If you are being nice so that you can be accepted by someone that you want to remain in your life, it means that you are not putting your own needs first. You will only have a short term relationship, if you keep doing this.

When you fill up yourself with self respect and self love, it cannot do anything, but overflow onto anyone who is close to you or around you. And so, you don't have to do much. It comes out naturally and you won't feel depleted as if you are forcefully trying to please someone at your own emotional expense. You won't put up with someone who treats you terribly, if you have self love and respect. It will no longer drain you to be nice because it comes through in a natural way. Once you naturally accept yourself for who you are and you are true to your personality, you will interact genuinely and even if someone takes advantage of you, it won't change who you are and you will be quicker to stop anyone from being abusive towards you because of your niceness. When it comes out naturally, this is the only way that you will rise above any disadvantage.

When you are too nice in your relationship and it goes to the level of going out of your way to please the other partner, you will deprive the relationship of being creative and spontaneous. You are going to want to try to fix everything without allowing the other person to play a part. If the relationship does not have the creative energy it needs to survive, it will become stagnant and the other person will feel as if you are trying to dominate the union and not giving the relationship space to flow. When you are too nice, you tend to avoid the sharing of ideas also because you are afraid of rejection, ridicule and judgment. Your partner might make you feel as if you are controlling the relationship or being selfish in your actions, even if that is not the case. Overtime, the energy in the relationship will dissipate because it is starving of mutual interaction and space for individuality. Overtime, the relationship will become stagnant; leading to a disconnection and vulnerability. It is a breeding ground for the other person to cheat; seeking something other than what you are offering.

If you are too nice in a relationship, you may be setting yourself up for a fall, which means that resentment from the other person may develop. Eventually, you either have to fix this or be prone to other things taking place in the relationship. You should be more assertive in the relationship and not be a people pleaser. All relationships have challenges and so if you are willing to deal with the conflicts; it means that you don't have to force being the nice person in the relationship, but open to communicating your true feelings. You should not be a "YES" person while you know deep down that you want to say "NO." If you are not honest about your feelings, it will only backfire on you. Be expressive about how you truly feel, ask questions, listen carefully and open up. If you and your partner disagree about anything, that is OK as long as you gently, quietly and respectfully make your point.

Create a way that you and your partner can equally participate in a dialogue. For example, if you and your partner decide to go out to dinner and one partner chooses a restaurant without asking the other. The partner who was not involved in the decision making should speak up, if the choice is not desired. There should be a discussion between both of you, which should come to an amicable agreement. By participating in the decision, it means you don't have to appear too nice in accepting someone else's decision that you don't necessarily agree with. You should take this approach and your partner will respect your desire to speak up. If you don't mention your desires, it means that you are only trying to please your partner and the dinner might turn out to be lackluster because you are not necessarily pleased with the choice.

When you try to please someone else, it becomes all about them and a relationship takes two people working together to have the success that others are having. Being too nice creates an unhealthy relationship because it is no longer about two people. It is all about one person. When you are too nice, it makes you less likely to create boundaries in the relationship and the other partner could step all over you. That is when you would lose self-respect and allow others to cross the line on you.